· · Friday at 8:10am
Before I get started, let me say clearly that this is about our family and my own convictions. It's not about what anyone else should or should not do...just us.
Now here is what that Facebook post didn't share...
Last Thursday night out of utter frustration, I threw Bob Elfie...our Elf on the Shelf...in a drawer and penned that letter to our children. For five solid days, my children had fought and bickered and sassed me like never before. I was beat down and fed up. So I took action and, feeling very satisfied with myself, I thought "Ha! That'll teach them!"
Guess what happened when I read the letter to them? They fought and they whined and they complained and they screamed blame at one another. And me? I sat down at the kitchen table and cried in defeat. My plan had failed...miserably.
But in those tearful moments, God spoke Truth to my heart. The kind of truth that comforts and stings all at once. Truth that this mother desperately needed hear. This is what He said to me...
An elf will not make your children obey. And neither will his departure...no matter how clever. But training and discipline will. Do as I have commanded you.
But He didn't stop there. I had another lesson to learn, so He continued with this...
You have cluttered the manger. Why have you placed yet one more thing between your children and Jesus?
Ouch! OUCH! That hurt. But...as always, God was right.
For months, I have been lazy...ignoring behavior that needed correction and neglecting precious opportunities to train my children in righteousness. And let me tell you...I was starting to see the consequences of my actions (or lack of, rather)!
So did I get it together and do what was right in order to correct the situation? No. Instead, I stood in front of my kids time after time, wagging my finger and reminding them that "the elf is watching" fully expecting them to become obedient, well-mannered, grateful little angels.
Ludicrous, isn't it? Uh-huh. I know.
And God was right on about that whole cluttering the manger thing too. Here's why...
Since my return from Ethiopia in July, I have felt a strong conviction to clean out, to purge, to declutter my life of everything that comes between me and my Savior. Through tearful confession, I have surrendered spiritual junk. Through hard work, a garage sale and boxes upon boxes of donations, I have emptied our closets and cabinets of excess and waste. Although it wasn't easy...by Thanksgiving, our house was rid of so much "stuff" that had previously stolen our time and our attention from Jesus.
But then while at Target one afternoon, I stopped at The Elf on the Shelf display. It was such a cute tradition for so many families, I thought we'd give it a try at our house. I picked it up to put it in my basket and felt for the first time a pause...something inside me that said "Don't do it. Put it back." But I ignored it and brought the elf home. On the first night, I propped him up on the mantel with the book beside him. Again, a pause. Again, I ignored it. The next morning, the kids discovered the little red elf and, after much discussion, gave him the name Bob Elfie.
For the next few evenings, I Googled elf ideas and creatively staged him. Each morning, the kids woke up on a mission to find him.
{Bob Elfie...in the Cheerios}
Throughout the day we talked and talked and talked about the elf. But there wasn't much talk about the virgin birth, the heavenly host of angels, the wise men or the precious gift of Jesus...from any of us. After months of making room for Jesus, I had indeed cluttered the manger. We were distracted...focusing on something of no significance and ignoring the true reason we celebrate Christmas.
Where is Bob Elfie today? Still in that drawer. Is he coming back? Probably not.
As cute and fun as he may be, I've learned that he's not the best thing for our family right now.
